Play to Win
Time to play along … grab a notepad (yeah … we totally still use them). It’s self-eval time, coach! We’re focusing on your impulse control. Don’t worry, we’re not judging. This is all about you. Karen is our Cosmo quizmaster. P.S. Could you buy the crocodile boots? Would you toss the toaster? Listen up.
It’s easier to get a clear picture of the puzzle when the emotional intelligence pieces come together. In this episode, we’re talking about the connection between impulse control, assertiveness, and flexibility. We’ll give you examples of how the highs and lows in these skill areas impact each other. Then, as coaches, we can see what needs to be amped up or tamped down. Totally eye-opening.
Emotional intelligence has been in the news of late, and we know the concept might sound a little too touchy-feely for some professionals, especially those with eyes laser-focused on the next rung of the ladder. It’s basically about feelings after all, right? … And who has time for that?
Well, to say EQ is just about feelings is like saying math is just about numbers, or eating is just about staving off hunger (if that were the case, we wouldn’t have countless restaurants we miss going to right now for their incredible poutine or falafel or penne a la vodka).
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is what association leaders, as well as those who aspire to association c-suite positions and anyone else who wants to maximize their impact, should focus now on to complement their hard skills.
You wanna call the shots? Take a moment… a breath… a pause. The impulse control convo keeps going in this episode with the Power of the Pause. That’s right. It’s all about the magic between the stimulus and the response. The control, the freedom in how you respond to a trigger is all on you. So how do you coach someone to use the power of the pause? Listen up.
Should I stay or should I go now?
Should I stay or should I go now?
If I go, there will be trouble
And if I stay it will be double
So come on and let me know
The Clash’s classic punk lyrics echo what’s playing inside the heads of so many workers across the globe. They’re looking for that thing, that feeling, that ‘why’ to keep themselves invested in their workplace, or the clear sign it’s time to go … now. They know that if they leave, there’s that whole uneasiness that comes with the unknown and the interruption (sometimes chaos!) that comes with changing jobs. But, if they stay, will it be more of the same or even get worse?
Let’s do it! Add to cart. Bring it on. IF it’s high reward, low aggravation. Otherwise, don’t. We’re dissecting Karen’s impulse control (and her lack of it in many cases). In this episode, we’re looking at how impulse control is driven by emotions. Why does it show up in some places and not others? Let’s have a look at why that’s important and how we should be coaching around it.
Can’t NOT say something? Got no filter? Do you need one? This episode is all about the emotional intelligence skill of impulse control. And what you’ll learn is that there is a Grand Canyon-like range of results here. Sometimes high impulse control is a good thing, sometimes it’s not. You’ll see how it plays into decision making, big risks, getting stuck, and some serious regret.
As promised, coach, we’re comin’ at you with our four-step emotional intelligence process when it comes to problem-solving. Yes! It’s like a roadmap! We’re going to walk you through these steps with a few examples so you can think about how you would coach around it.
Emotions getting in the way of understanding the real problem? Think about it… which “problems” are you working on that don’t have emotions tied to them? Aha! So what to do, coach? Here’s another emotional intelligence wake-up call. In this episode, we’re talking about separating the emotions and getting real about what’s triggering them.
