Play to Win
Feeling a little tense with all the expectations around the holidays and the end of the year? Let’s put the focus where it should be and watch what happens to your stress. In this episode, we’re talking about honoring our values, traditions, and maybe flipping the script on those situations which tend to make us tumble down holiday stress mountain. Hint: It’s all about perspective and thinking about why you’re really making the cookies.
Yep. It’s your thoughts. That crap swirling around in your head is what’s dictating your stress level. Even though you really want to blame the thing, the person, the timing… it’s not the situation at fault. In this episode, we’re showing you what YOU can control. We’re connecting the emotional intelligence skill of stress tolerance with what you’re thinking so you can improve your relationship with stress.
Holidays … they always bring out our best, right? Family, friends, food, and lots of plans … They can make a hella-good time or a whole big ball of angst. How do you navigate the waters? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional skill needed to surf the waves of stress instead of avoiding them altogether. Hang ten, Coach. You got this.
P.S. Thank you, Kenya!
Time to play along … grab a notepad (yeah … we totally still use them). It’s self-eval time, coach! We’re focusing on your impulse control. Don’t worry, we’re not judging. This is all about you. Karen is our Cosmo quizmaster. P.S. Could you buy the crocodile boots? Would you toss the toaster? Listen up.
It’s easier to get a clear picture of the puzzle when the emotional intelligence pieces come together. In this episode, we’re talking about the connection between impulse control, assertiveness, and flexibility. We’ll give you examples of how the highs and lows in these skill areas impact each other. Then, as coaches, we can see what needs to be amped up or tamped down. Totally eye-opening.
Emotional intelligence has been in the news of late, and we know the concept might sound a little too touchy-feely for some professionals, especially those with eyes laser-focused on the next rung of the ladder. It’s basically about feelings after all, right? … And who has time for that?
Well, to say EQ is just about feelings is like saying math is just about numbers, or eating is just about staving off hunger (if that were the case, we wouldn’t have countless restaurants we miss going to right now for their incredible poutine or falafel or penne a la vodka).
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is what association leaders, as well as those who aspire to association c-suite positions and anyone else who wants to maximize their impact, should focus now on to complement their hard skills.
You wanna call the shots? Take a moment… a breath… a pause. The impulse control convo keeps going in this episode with the Power of the Pause. That’s right. It’s all about the magic between the stimulus and the response. The control, the freedom in how you respond to a trigger is all on you. So how do you coach someone to use the power of the pause? Listen up.
Should I stay or should I go now?
Should I stay or should I go now?
If I go, there will be trouble
And if I stay it will be double
So come on and let me know
The Clash’s classic punk lyrics echo what’s playing inside the heads of so many workers across the globe. They’re looking for that thing, that feeling, that ‘why’ to keep themselves invested in their workplace, or the clear sign it’s time to go … now. They know that if they leave, there’s that whole uneasiness that comes with the unknown and the interruption (sometimes chaos!) that comes with changing jobs. But, if they stay, will it be more of the same or even get worse?
Let’s do it! Add to cart. Bring it on. IF it’s high reward, low aggravation. Otherwise, don’t. We’re dissecting Karen’s impulse control (and her lack of it in many cases). In this episode, we’re looking at how impulse control is driven by emotions. Why does it show up in some places and not others? Let’s have a look at why that’s important and how we should be coaching around it.
