Play to Win
Jenn and Karen wrestle with the concept of commitment in this episode (it’s not quite clear who wins the match). They ponder whether they’re rationalizing their own decision to skip recording an episode last week. Try not to laugh! Plus, they break down the real definition of commitment which should make total sense to coaches. And (yes!), they provide a spot-on interpretation of Alanis Morissette’s 1996 hit, Ironic.
There are no shortcuts. Ugh … we said it. Sometimes it sucks. Doing hard things can wreak havoc on our emotions, and there’s a reason. We should do it. We say we want it. It’s frikkin’ hard. The hardest things are usually part of our big “why,” people. As coaches, we need to move our clients toward acceptance and understanding why it means so much to them. We’re talking about moving them toward the mindset of the person who accomplishes their goals.
We continue down our path to accomplishing hard things – they just keep coming! Yeah, it turns out life is full of them. So, what do you do, Coach? What do you tell your clients to do? Your most powerful force is your emotions. Use them to fuel you! In this episode, we’re talking about just that—digging into how to adjust your mindset from fear to excitement and embracing the challenge (or “the suck”), and taking action.
Ever coach someone who just never seems able to push through when things get tricky? Or are you the one who’s backing down when the going gets tough? In this episode, we share a very real tip on how to stretch yourself. It’s actually about surrounding yourself with the right people. The ones that have been there, done that, and how that plays into your goals. Sometimes when looking for that transformation, it helps to look outward to look inward. Trippy, but true.
Ugh… this is hard! In this episode, Karen tells a story (yeah!) about a realization she had while out for a run … it’s about doing hard things. We want you to think about the thoughts and feelings that come up for you when … let’s say … the climb gets steeper … or the you-know-what hits the fan. Some people check out. Some people give in. Even we, as master coaches, need to get real and remind ourselves we can do hard things.
What’s really happening when you say you want something and it’s just not happening? Yeah, you know what we’re talking about. When your actions don’t support that thing (that goal) you want … Spoiler alert! Internal Conflict is at play. Let’s take a look at that together, shall we? In this episode, we’re looking at ways to combat your inner conflict (Tae-Bo anyone?). Stop being held back by your own damn self! Cue your internal Billy Blanks.
Our discussion on radical candor takes another step into the deep with the help of the book Radical Conflict (all about being a “kick-ass boss”) by Kim Scott. You’re going to get real (fun) takeaways, including some new language for talking about honesty. Know this: Rocking the boat is a good thing. The homework question for this one will give you pause. Take it.
Radical candor isn’t about spewing honest digs with reckless abandon (e.g., “Your personality rivals a wet napkin”). And it isn’t an expression coined by Bill and Ted (although it’s totally excellent). So, what is it? Well, we’re breaking down radical candor in this episode and talking about its relationship to healthy conflict. Yeah … it goes there. Listen up, because you’ll have a great question to ask yourself when the episode’s done.
Here we go … Starting 2021 looking at the concept of conflict. Ewwww … Why? Sounds hard! Want to grow? Well, time to imagine what’s on the other side of that conversation you’re avoiding. Let’s walk through it and try on a different perspective.
